Where are we as a society that a 53-year-old song is still our most famous trans anthem?
In 1970, one year after the Stonewall uprising and before any Pride parade had ever marched, Ray Davies wrote an endearing story about a young man and his first kiss with a woman who also happened to be transgender.
Famed trans activist Mara Keisling was an 11-year-old kid in central Pennsylvania who heard that pop song on the radio, and it literally saved her life. There were almost no “out” trans celebrities. Christine Jorgensen and Jackie Shane were trailblazers decades earlier, but it sure felt like there were no signs of trans visibility in the suburbs. So when Keisling first heard “Lola” by the Kinks, she suddenly felt less alone. “It was pretty clear that ‘Lola’ was like me,” Keisling said in an NBC News interview. “It made me realize I wasn’t absolutely the only person in the world living with what was then a shameful secret.”
Keisling became the founding executive director of the National Center for Transgender Equality. “This song was one of the things that got me through,” said Keisling. “That sounds odd, but when you’re a kid and that alone, and you have that kind of thing weighing on you, and you can’t talk to anybody about it, a song like ‘Lola’ becomes so important. It was lifesaving.”
The lyrics were written by the Kinks’ lead singer, Davies, a straight, white, cisgender man. By today’s standards, some of the lyrics are offensive. No one should get away with a line like “She walks like a woman but talks like a man,” but in 1970, there was hardly a template for a cis person to describe a trans woman. Davies creates a naive character who has “never ever kissed a woman before,” and Lola, a Black, trans woman will be his first. A music video created years later doesn’t acknowledge Lola as Black, but in a song known for visibility, we can’t forget that “dark brown voice:”
She walked up to me and she asked me to dance
I asked her her name and in a dark brown voice she said Lola
L-O-L-A, Lola
The boy eventually discovers Lola’s identity:
I pushed her away
I walked to the door
I fell to the floor
I got down on my knees
Then I looked at her and she at me
Even during his knee-jerk reaction, he doesn’t misgender Lola. He doesn’t run away or dehumanize her. He realizes that Lola is perfect. And he admits all the reasons he doesn’t exactly fit traditional expectations of gender either:
“I’m not the world’s most physical guy.”
“She picked me up and sat me on her knee.”
“I’m not the world’s most masculine man.”
Then, there is the song’s most powerful line:
Girls will be boys and boys will be girls.
It’s a mixed-up, muddled-up, shook-up world except for Lola.
The word “except” here is important. The world is “mixed-up,” but not Lola. This judgey world they live in is shook-up, not “my” Lola.
The song was groundbreaking in 1970 for depicting the love between a Black trans woman and a white cis man. When “Lola” was released as a single, some radio stations refused to play the song or would fade out the track before Lola's gender identity was revealed.
In a Record Mirror article with the tabloid title, "Sex Change Record: Kink Speaks," Davies addressed the controversy, saying, "It really doesn't matter what sex Lola is, I think she's alright.”
Davies’ brother and fellow bandmate, Dave Davies, who has always been open about being bisexual, said he’s proud of the legacy that “Lola” has in music history. “Obviously, there were a lot of people we knew who were transgender at the time, and we knew a lot of gay people, but you have to remember, when the Kinks first started, homosexuality was illegal in England.”
“Lola” rose to the top of the Billboard charts in both the UK and in America. In a recent New York Times interview, Ray Davies said he’d heard that “Lola” encouraged other songwriters to explore this topic. “Before he passed away, Lou Reed told me that ‘Lola’ was a big influence on him,” he said. “It was reassuring to him when he did ‘Walk on the Wild Side’ in 1972.”
Arguably, “‘Lola” along with Lou Reed’s 1972 hit “Walk on the Wild Side,” spent 50 years as the most commercially popular songs about trans visibility. Some will remember “I’m A Boy,” written by bisexual guitarist Pete Townshend from the Who, which went to No. 2 in the UK in 1966 but didn’t make the charts in the states.
Although there have been successful trans musicians through the years like Sophie, Laura Jane Grace (from Against Me!), and Anohni (from Antony and the Johnsons fame), no one was able to match the level of success until 2022 when Kim Petras and Sam Smith made history as the first transgender and nonbinary artists to reach No. 1 on the Billboard chart with their hit, “Unholy.”
Davies would explore another transgender character in the Kinks’ 1977 hit, “On The Outside,” about a person struggling to accept their identity. “It’s about somebody going through a tremendous emotional trauma about having to be somebody they know they’re not,” he said.
For a trans kid like Keisling, this Billboard-topping hit had infiltrated suburbia and found its way to people desperate for visibility and acceptance. “This is one of the first cracks in the gender revolution,” explains Natalie Egan, a transgender woman interviewed by NBC News. “It presented us in a way that was not negative. It’s truly pioneering, and it’s remarkable that the Kinks found the courage to put it out.”
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Love this. Until just now I had no idea about the song’s backstory (or lyrics, outside of the chorus).
Had the album upon release (I was 15 in 1970), Jami, and having already "grown up" and become certainly comfortable with the murky gender line in songs by the likes of (even early) Bowie (it was so easy to fantasize about a "Wild-Eyed Boy From Freecloud" as an early high-schooler!), T.Rex, Alice Cooper, as well as the admittedly attractive, freshly-scrubbed cheeks of the teeny bopper faces on teen mag covers, I heard "Lola" with a rather complacent "hmmm, OK.... Oh, that Ray!"
Not so much "enlightened," but it was nothing for me to accept this in the fanciful "musical art" form that I'd come to get used to from Ray (and musical artists in general)!
I will tell you (and I never put this past word-smithy Ray) that I heard a '70s radio DJ take up Ray's "controversial" line/song by offering the second meaning of "I'm glad I'm a man, and so is Lola"............as, "I'm glad I'm a man, and so is Lola (the understood "also glad I'm a man)"!
Which is plausible on its face, but there's so much in-song "evidence" about the trans-Lola to easily dismiss that! Great info on the song, Jami....'twas fun to re-visit! I sang "Wild-Eyed Boy From Freecloud" more than once in karaoke a decade ago! I'm sure I sighed resignedly each time.😉